Monday, 21 November 2016

Positive vibes only

'If you have good thoughts, they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely' - Roald Dahl

I think we can all agree that 2016 has been a very mixed bag full of life changes, and it's certainly shaken a lot of us up. As I've mentioned in previous posts, this year has had a lot of ups and downs and hasn't been the easiest for me personally. However, I'm happy to say that I finally feel like I am in a much brighter place and a lot of it has to do with those 'positive vibes'.

We all have that inner voice in our minds and that inner voice can either be really nice to us or the total opposite. Unfortunately for me mine was the latter, and to be quite frank I've probably been like that for quite a while, more than I care to think about. I have always been really hard on myself, nothing I ever do is good enough in my eyes, and those are really horrible thoughts to have about yourself.

Just over a month ago I sat down with Jack and we had a big long chat about me and the way I talk to myself (it all sounds very self-centred, I know, but bare with me!). He sat me down and said to me that the inner voice in my mind is someone who I have created. No one else has had an input on this inner voice, just me, so I am speaking to myself this way and it is making me sad. Then he said, 'the things that you say to yourself, imagine saying them to your best friend. Would you say those things to your best friend?', no, of course I wouldn't, and that is when the realisation hit me.

If I wouldn't say these things to other people, things such as 'oh, you could never do that' or 'keep dreaming because that will never happen' or even 'what's the point in bothering? You won't be able to achieve that anyway', then why am I saying them to myself? I should be full of determination and motivation and telling myself 'girl, you've got this!', so I did. I changed.

It sounds strange to think that even though I've told myself time and time again that I can do anything I put my mind to, it takes a conversation with someone else to put it all into perspective and actually make you change your mind set. Since then I only allow myself to think positively about my life choices on a day-to-day basis. Anything more than that and I may get overwhelmed and go back to square one, but so far so good.

Now, I'm not saying that this will be as easy for everyone if you are also have negative thoughts about yourself, but it does help. You have to change your outlook on your life and the things that you are doing, and if you're not happy with what you see then it's down to you to change it. 

I am so much happier now that I don't put as much pressure on myself or constantly put myself down. Life is a lot more chilled and peaceful, so long may it continue! I hope this has maybe helped some of you out there who have been feeling the same, and if you have any questions or concerns then please comment below or even email me and I'll try to help wherever I can :)

Fur, Burnt Orange Cami, Boots: New Look  //  Coat & Bag: Charity Shop  //  T-shirt: Primark  //  Jeans: Topshop

This outfit is another one of my favourites right now. I love layering this time of year so this outfit is great for me for not only style, but warmth too!


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